Experienced New York child custody attorneys know that setting up a regular “parenting time” plan, covering the average day or week, is only part of the process involved in deciding which parent will take care of children at what times. The other major part of the process is arranging parenting time around major holidays – like those that take place at the end of the year.
Whether or not your family celebrates winter holidays, changes in school and work schedules will likely require you to adapt the parenting plan. Families who do celebrate holidays need to decide who the children will spend holiday time with, and when.
Here are some ways to approach parenting time during the holidays:
- Create regularity. Even though the holidays often change the “usual” plan, think about creating an agreement that will be predictable from year to year. For instance, if the children spend this holiday season with one parent, perhaps next year they will spend it with the other. For days on which events aren’t scheduled, consider sticking to the usual plan to give the children a sense of regularity.
- Ask the kids. What parts of the holiday season are most important to your children? What events do they have scheduled through school or other groups? Older children may have specific wishes for events to attend this holiday season; taking these into consideration ahead of time can help you plan more effectively.
- Keep up your end of the bargain. You cannot control how your spouse chooses to approach parenting over the holidays, but you can make sure that you communicate clearly, get the kids prepared, and drop off and pick up children on time. Keeping up your end of this bargain will help the holidays go more smoothly, even if your spouse does not.
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