When the parents of an infant divorce, they may assume that their baby doesn’t know what is happening. In some ways, this is true. A child under one year of age doesn’t understand what a divorce is, and babies who are only a few months old may show few outward changes in behavior as a result of the divorce.
But, even very young infants can sense that things in their world are “different,” and they may respond in predictable ways. An infant who acts fussier is hard to comfort, or who seems detached from people might be “picking up” on the sadness or anger of their parents. For these children, it’s a good idea to plan for additional “one on one” time when you can play with or simply hold the baby, giving them your full attention. Proactively working with a therapist or planning for your own self-care needs can also help you be less sad or stressed, which in turn helps your infant feel more secure.
Around the age of six to eight months, infants typically become more anxious around strangers. If you and your spouse have separated, your baby might be more anxious around the parent that he or she sees less often. To reduce this anxiety, make sure you both spend regular time with your child.
You can help your baby or older child navigate divorce more smoothly by working with an experienced Long Island child support and custody lawyer. Your lawyer will answer your questions and work to settle the divorce in a way that meets your needs and those of your child. To discuss your situation, contact the Law Offices of Paul A. Boronow, P.C. today at (516) 227-5353.