The holidays are a source of major family stress for thousands of New Yorkers, even if they’re not facing a change in their family circumstances. However, if you’re going through a divorce this time of year, stress levels can reach a critical peak. Here are some ways you can help reduce your stress levels during the holidays and start to build new traditions that will help you transition through your divorce:
Preserve what you can.
If a particular holiday tradition means a great deal to you, look for ways you can still participate in it even though your home life may be very different than in past years. If you always go to a particular concert or event, find a friend to go with you. If the holidays just aren’t the same without your favorite food, indulge in it. Maintaining your favorite traditions can help you face the changes more easily.
Look for ways to create new traditions.
Divorce changes things. But often, the change is for the better. If you can’t keep a tradition the same – or if you no longer want to – look for an opportunity to create a new tradition. For instance, if you’ll no longer be visiting your former spouse’s family, find a group of friends to spend the time with, or take on a new volunteer project to build new connections.
Get some “me time.”
Do what you need to take care of yourself and your needs during the holidays. Start planning now to reserve time for your favorite activities or to schedule an extra session with your therapist or other support people.
Touch base with your attorney
Send a brief email or phone call to your experienced New York divorce and family law attorney to “touch base” regarding your divorce. Even if nothing has changed in your case, you’ll be able to worry less about the divorce – and focus more on what makes you happy