Seeing their parents go through a divorce can raise intense and conflicting feelings in teenagers. They may feel relief that the tension in the house is being addressed in a concrete way, combined with anxiety about their own futures and fear that the divorce means they’ll “lose” one or both parents.
While your relationship with your children is deeply personal, addressing certain financial issues with your New York divorce attorney can help ensure that you and your teen have a more secure future. Here are just a few of the things adolescent children may need when their parents go through a divorce:
- Reassurance, combined with emotional “space.”
Like all children, teens rely on their parents and the relationship between them. When that relationship changes, teenagers can find themselves feeling scared and alone. Each parent should spend some one-on-one time building their own relationship with their teenager. Avoid talking negatively about the child’s other parent; instead, focus on building your relationship and creating caring, empathetic “space” for your teen to feel safe venting his or her feelings. An experienced therapist can also help you both at this time.
- Stability and predictability.
As much as possible, make sure your teenager’s life proceeds normally. Work with your spouse to keep your child in the same school, attending the same activities, and hanging out with the same group of supportive friends or family members. A stable, predictable schedule helps allay anxiety and keep your adolescent “on track” to a promising young adulthood.
- Financial support.
When discussing financial matters during the divorce, don’t forget to consider a teen’s future – it’s arriving more quickly than you’d think. What are the plans for funding a teenager’s college goals? Where do your children fit into your estate plan, and what might change now that you are ending your marriage?
Contact the Law Offices of Paul A. Boronow, PC to help you confidently answer these questions and navigate the divorce process smoothly.