Mediation offers a lower-cost, lower-stress alternative to litigation for settling many issues that come up during a divorce. In a mediation setting, you and your attorney work with your spouse and your spouse’s attorney, as well as with a neutral mediator. The mediator’s job is to provide information and to help everyone stay on the same page, but not to give specific advice or to dictate a particular result. Any issues not resolved in mediation can always be taken to court.
If you’re considering mediation or you have scheduled mediation, here are four ways you can prepare:
- Create lists and gather records. You can’t make decisions about your assets, possessions, income, and debts unless you know what you have, so start by getting organized. Creating a master list of all your possessions and gathering records to track your income and expenses can help you reach a more equitable settlement.
- Know what your goals are. What are you willing to walk away from? What can you absolutely not live without? It helps to make lists here as well. Remember to keep issues of custody and visitation separate from issues of finances or property: make separate lists of the household items or assets you want to keep and how you want custody or visitation to be handled.
- Create a “future budget.” What kind of monthly income will you need once the divorce is complete? Where will you live? Creating a sample “future budget” for this scenario will help you determine what you need from the divorce.
- Work with your attorney to choose the right mediator. A Long Island divorce attorney with experience guiding clients through mediation can help you choose a mediator who is trained, qualified, and who is likely to offer useful guidance in your particular situation.
To discuss whether mediation is the right option for you, do not hesitate to reach out to the Law Offices of Paul A. Boronow, PC. Call (516) 227-5353 today.